I, like many others, have been long time Kardashian fans since the beginning of their show on E!, Keeping Up With The Kardashians. Since then, they have sprouted several shows and appearances, seeing huge career boosts... every person in the family included. All this from one starter season and the success of their clothing stores.
While the the Kardashians are known for getting into trouble with each other and causing one another heartache over virtually nothing, I have always thought that they reminded me of a regular family. The money plays a part, but in essense, they are like any other American family struggling to raise teenagers, to be better people. They each suffer low self-esteem, pressures from each other and the world, body issues, peer pressure... You name it! For this, I have been really thankful. It makes me feel sane sometimes to see people without the mundane worries about paying rent and getting an hourly wage have the same problems that I have personally and socially.
Recently, Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries married with a lavish ceremony, the experience taped for viewers. What Kim and Kris went through doesn't surprise me. My husband and I had similar arguments and problems planning our own wedding. We also didn't have the media attention that Kim and Kris do.
The one thing my husband and I had over Kim and Kris is time spent building a firm foundation for our relationship. We still work through day-to-day problems that arise, but we work hard at making each other feel good about ourselves personally and together. While Kris seems like a fairly grounded and mature man, he acted quite immaturely at times with Kim concerning the wedding. I saw warning signs in the show when the family went on their trip to Tahiti. The producers of the show ultimately decide how people are spun. They can make them each look mean or innocent based on cuts and background music. They can stage events if they need to and re-shoot them. I think Kim and Kris were pretty accurately portrayed, though. You can't change your personality and reactions, especially when we know Kim and Kris aren't seasoned, award-winning actors.
At first, I was a little upset for no real reason because they entered in a huge production of a wedding to join together their families and then file divorce after 70 odd days "together." This means there was little to no commitment to the marriage. If you marry someone and divorce them after less than a year, it's obvious you didn't spend much time really getting to know and appreciate each other. In reality, they may have spent the better part of a year dating and being engaged, but they hadn't spent real time together. They probably saw each other for a few hours to a few days separated by a week or so. When I dated my husband, we saw each other or talked every single day. When we were studying abroad, we video chatted and spoke on the phone several times a day. We made every effort to be committed and honest with each other from the very beginning. I think this is what makes us appreciate each other so much: honesty and trust.
None of us were there. None of us knew the relationship they had, even if it WAS portrayed on TV. I think that although Kim and Kris are done, they are a reflection of our society. They really do portray how we view marriage and commitment. JLo has been marrying and divorcing in short spurts for years and no one has ever blamed her for killing the sanctity of marriage. I think people should lay off Kim and Kris. While statements say that Kris had no idea about the divorce, we can never really know. There are things that happen in private between two people in a relationship that no one sees or knows about.
I think it's time for the world to really evaluate their own relationships. Don't blame someone else for cheapening marriage when we all contribute in a way. We tell our friends to just leave him because it has been too long. We don't support them in the fight for their marriage. We encourage people to be happy for themselves without encouraging them to fight for the happiness in their marriage. I'm not saying that "irreconcilable differences" don't exist. I'm simply saying that we all really encourage an individual's happiness over the happiness of the other person involved. It's a relationship, not a business agreement.
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